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My father in law rested peacefully in his hospice bed at the nursing home, his chest rising and falling, the hum of the oxygen concentrator punctuating the silence. We stood together, friends, family and staff, and honored this man who served his country in the “great war.”  He was really just a boy when he sailed on that ship overseas, and like so many others, he changed in ways we will never understand. He met and married his wife, returned to the States on a Saturday and went back to work on Monday morning.  It was like that for those boys, old men now.

Life continued. He started a business and  fathered 3 children. His love of the woods and outdoors carried him throughout his life.  This man lost first a son, then his wife, and finally his health.

The hospice workers suggested a veteran’s pinning ceremony, honoring this man, and his service to his country. What a gift! And so we assembled, family and friends. Those who couldn’t be here spoke to him on the phone. Demonstrating that hearing can be acute at the end of life, he responded with expressions and movement.

We stayed together, holding vigil, and honoring the life of this man. The day had been cloudy, and on and off rainy. The sun broke through the clouds and passed across his face. Breaths decreased and then stopped. We stood, silent, and grateful for all we have shared.

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To Honor the Fathers: A Veteran’s Day Re-Post

They are fathers, grandfathers and great-grandfathers, old men now. They are forgotten heroes, many of whom as boys really, witnessed the horrors of genocide, the stench of death.Grandpa and his dog

They signed up to help the war effort. To fight for their country, for what, in their heart of hearts, they felt was right. Hastily trained, they went overseas, on ships that were floating cities. My father was an optometry student, my father-in-law, an architecture student. Both were sent to Europe. My Dad had been tested to be a fighter pilot. He rated highly, but his air sicknesses changed that direction, and he was sent to work in a hospital in England. He never talked much about his experiences there, choosing only to relate humorous ones.

My father-in-law was in the engineer corps. They were sent ahead of the rest of the troops to clear mines and to build roads and bridges. He had no idea that when he was sent to the town of Buchenwald, Germany, that he would witness the some of the evils of human nature, horrors he has relived in the years since.

Neither man talked much about what they witnessed and how they felt about it, sharing only snippets of these experiences that shaped their lives. It seems to me that sometimes the quietest people have the most to say; we need to take a moment to listen, with our ears, our eyes and our hearts.

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Of Fathers on this Day

Two years ago on Fathers’ Day, my Dad had a massive stroke.  On this day, I reflect on him and his desire to create a life for him and for his wife and daughters, one that had all the things he didn’t have.  He would have appreciated this, with its philosophical point of view:

Debra Bures' of Elements Gallery, Peninsula, OH would have appreciated this.My children have a Dad who is kind, gentle and caring.  He has been a pony, a trampoline and a climbing gym. He has fixed broken toys, made dolls and doll furniture.  He has read countless books,  told stories and colored pictures. He has chased balls, held bikes while his daughters learned to ride and played sleeping rocks. He has fetched frisbees from trees and from the roof and cats from trees. He has been the recipient of  many gifts,  both tangible and intangible, and he keeps them all in his heart.  He has been mentor, guide and confidant, encouraging those in his life to be all they can be.   I am blessed to have him in mine.

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My Town Monday: To Honor the Fathers and The Mothers

Saturday was the 65th anniversary of D-Day.  Many men and women on both sides of the Pond, from all walks of life experienced things that changed their lives in ways they could not have imagined. They were from all walks of life; from cities and from villages. They wore olive drab and navy blue, uniforms, work clothes and house dresses. They lived in the dark at night, and spent hours in shelters.  They experienced shortages of food, clothing and fuel.

Their courage and their stories have no boundaries.  They teach us that we do live in the same town, on this beautiful blue planet we call Earth.

Please click here and here to read about my family’s experiences at that time.

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Travis Erwin runs the My Town Monday marquis. Wander on there to see what he has to say.

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