From Skilled Hands

Musings on a Day for Mothers

By fromskilledhands ( May 10, 2009 at 9:58 am) · Filed under Caring, creativity, Hope, Joy, Love, Mothers, Love, Mothers' Day

Redbuds in Bloom I have mixed feelings on this day of days. I am reminded that I am a motherless child and that there are so many things I would ask my mom if she were here. I can still hear her voice on the phone, “Hi, Doll.” And I can see the young mother with 2 daughters making grilled cheese sandwiches to go with the tomato soup that came out of the red and white can. I think of the woman who witnessed this daughter’s journey for independence and to find her own way. The woman who didn’t understand the choices her daughter made and had her own struggle to accept them. The woman who loved her granddaughters unconditionally.

I remember my mother in her ICU bed, telling me that I had taught her a lot about being a mother, and thanking me. I remember one of her gifts to me when I didn’t know where to be—at her bedside or at home with my husband and daughters. She said, “I love you. Go home. With my blessing.” I came home on February 15th to my husband playing outside with our daughters. There was a sign on the door. Happy Valentine’s Day. They had moved the day on the calendar so we could celebrate it together.

On this day, as I walked with the dogs, I thought of the sweetnesses that I have experienced in these woods, of #1 daughter being a pony or a unicorn, galloping through the woods, hair flying as her spirit soared. Of #2 daughter stopping at each Jack-in-the-Pulpit to make sure Jack was home. “Hello, Jack,” she said each and every time. Of my mother-in-law, reminding me that I am her other daughter, her love-in-law.

Happy Mothers’ Day to us all. Those of us who are one, who made one, and who have or had one. Take a moment to cherish those you love.

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Thanks to these fine women, among many others, who have shared their thoughts on this day:

distracted by shiny objects

CodePink Mothers' Day Call for Peace

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9 comments »

rudeek said,

May 10, 2009 @ 10:31 am

It is a bittersweet day for those of us who have lost our mothers, but one we celebrate with our own children anyways. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this special day, and Happy Mother’s Day.
Cat B said,

May 10, 2009 @ 10:41 am

Your musings brought tears to my eyes. What a powerful experience motherhood is for us all. Thanks, Debra, and happy Mother’s Day to you!! xoxo
Eryl said,

May 10, 2009 @ 4:15 pm

We celebrate Mother’s Day in March over here and this year I had my first totally motherless one as my mother-in-law died last year. I am the mother in our house now, which is odd. Happy Mother’s day to you and all American mothers, X
Karen Carter said,

May 10, 2009 @ 9:23 pm

Debra, thanks so much for the link, but especially for this post. Your daughters are so blessed to have you for a mom, as your mother was blessed to have you for a daughter. Hugs, K.
Patti Abbott said,

May 10, 2009 @ 9:51 pm

Thanks for sharing the day with me.
Lana said,

May 10, 2009 @ 11:17 pm

I hope you had a wonderful Mothers’ Day.
carleen said,

May 17, 2009 @ 9:49 pm

Wow. Thanks for your post and for linking to mine. Hope you had a wonderful day. Thanks too for the joke about your mom and the Home Shopping Network.
MaryWitzl said,

May 17, 2009 @ 11:49 pm

This brought tears to my eyes too. My mother had a lot in common with your mother, Debra — not just grilled cheese sandwiches and you-know-what soup.
Hay said,

June 9, 2009 @ 6:25 pm

Oh my, what a special post.